Welcome to the list that will change your life. Well, it might not change your life but it will definitely help clear your head. I've designed this to be editable so that you can amend it to suit your situation exactly. There will be things on here that aren't relevant (vacuuming the stairs if you live in a flat, pet related tasks if you don't have pets) but I've tried to cover as many general things as possible. I haven't included things like Home Office (because not everyone will have one) or gyms, swimming pools etc. If you've got a gym or a swimming pool, you're on your own with that one.

At the end of the document I have put together a step-by-step guide to help any conversation you may want to have about the unequal distribution of the mental load and how it makes you and your partner feel (and any other conflict you may have). It's not easy and it takes work and it may feel laborious but it's really important that we lean into constructive conversations and recognise that we may have fallen into toxic habits when it comes to talking about these things.