WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP HITS A BRICK WALL?

Imagine that kids are ivy and a your relationship is a brick wall. The ivy grows on the wall and it all looks beautiful, but look a little closer and the ivy is slowly but surely undermining the solid structure that once stood. Ivy can have a devastating effect on bricks and mortar, no matter how strong it once stood and the arrival of kids can really put even the best of relationships under serious strain. Continue reading

WHAT MUMS NEED FROM LOVE…

Love is a tricky thing. It has so many faces – sure it’s spiky and fizzy at first and then it becomes exclusive, deep, powerful. After a while, it becomes more homely, more casual – more like a favourite pair of joggers than a pair of erection-inducing heels. Of course, there are still erections…just not as many of them. The point is, what love feels like changes all the time but how you show love should remain the same, all the time. Continue reading

WHY MY MARRIAGE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN MY KIDS

It seems obvious to me but sometimes I look around and I wonder whether I’m weird. I’ll be honest, my husband thought I was weird at first too but this is what I believe: my marriage is more important than my kids. I’m not suggesting I love my kids less than I love my husband. I’m not sure any love for a human that you didn’t heave out of your fanny can come even close to that instinctive, overwhelming, unconditional love you feel for your kids but that’s kind of the point. Right? Continue reading